We all know people with whom having a conversation is basically a one-way deal. With people who are pathological about it it gets tiresome and it's really not worth even trying to say much of anything. They don't care what you have to say anyway. They couldn't care if they wanted to. Their brains aren't wired for that.
These people are almost guaranteed to be narcissists. They have no empathy, so they're truly unable to care about anyone or anything unless it can be of some benefit to them, or worse something to exploit or harm. It's sick but they get off on it.
If you say something they do pay attention because they're looking for a way to use what you say to feel better about themselves. They analyze what you say, and if they can't come up with a way to top your story or completely shoot down your ideas to make themselves feel superior, which they truly believe they are, they'll completely ignore you, although they heard what you said.
They won't even look at you. It's so incredibly rude and disrespectful but with no empathy they can't put themselves in anyone else's shoes, so they don't understand how others see them and how bad they look.
If they don't give you the silent treatment and can't find a way to imply that you're stupid, they'll just interrupt you. That really gets old. Their stories are crazier and their jokes are funnier and their everything else is better than yours. Okay then.
It's really a pain but to some degree you have to feel a little sorry for them, since people who treat others like that are miserable inside, but you can't feel too bad since they know right from wrong and they know exactly what they're doing.
You might as well save your breath for someone who actually cares what you have to say, and isn't constantly trying to top you or shoot you down, or ignores you or over-talks you.
I know it's sometimes impossible to avoid these people altogether but limit your exposure. They're toxic people. They're energy vampires. All these symptoms should raise red flags. Guard your health. Stay away from narcissists.
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