Our Word is No Longer Our Bond

One thing I really miss about the "good ol' days" is that for the most part people actually did what they said they were going to do. It almost seems like an unnecessary thing among many people these days. It's not a positive thing...without a certain amount of trust, as in trusting someone to do what they say they're going to do, certainly relationships would crumble, and even society itself. 

 There was a time when someone's word was their bond. There are still people of course who adhere to that, but not like it once was. By the same token there have always been people who say things they never intend to fulfill, but you can weed them out pretty quickly. 

 It's always amazed me how some people constantly say things they never actually do, because those people get a reputation for being full of shit pretty quickly. That generally involves narcissism, where narcissists are pathological liars anyway, and since they possess no empathy and can't see themselves as others see them, they don't know how full of shit people think they are. 

 The traditional statement is: "A man's word is his bond." That would seem to indicate masculine, but "man" can refer to the human race in general. It's also possible that at least back in the day, men were expected to live up to it more than women...I don't know for sure. In my case lately it's been both sexes.

 It's not something like saying "I'll call you this evening" or whatever and then you get busy and forget; it's things that are extremely important, and even life-changing. The problem is that when someone tells you they're going to do something important but then they don't do it, you get your hopes up and it's an incredible disappointment. I keep telling myself not to ever get my hopes up but I can't help it sometimes, especially if I've trusted that person. It hurts, and it can literally affect your future. 

 As I've said a million times, I can be proud of the fact that if I say I'm going to do something I do it, and people know that. We tend to think that other people think like we do, but that's definitely not the case. 

 Another thing is that we get maybe 75% of the same dopamine hit just by saying we're going to do something as when we actually do it, and for some people that's good enough. Again, those people will get a reputation for being full of shit, and you learn to never believe a word they say. Maybe it's bragging but I thank God I'm not one of those people. Aside from an incident over a decade ago where I failed to return several calls because I'd just been through a rough breakup and wasn't thinking clearly and simply forgot to call back, which cost me a lifelong friend, I'm a man of my word. 

 In any case I miss the days when someone's word was their bond. I guess it's too much to ask nowadays. It's a damn shame.